25 March 2015

Being an empath

I read a really good article today. I know for a fact that i can easily empathize with feelings of people around me. Though being able to pick up on others energy and feel what they are feeling is a wonderful gift to have, it has been a burdensome curse and caused me emotional distress whenever i have interacted with people full of negative energy.

So this article had small tips as to how to prevent ourselves from losing our energy and our sanity whenever we are around such negative people. 

An extract:

1) Gaurd your thoughts
Let’s say you are sitting down with a friend, and another person walks into the room and you start picking up on what they are feeling.  When you start picking up on what they are feeling, pay attention to the thoughts that arise in your mind when this happens.  They may be thoughts like:
“Oh great, now I’m going to have to deal with this”, or 
“Why did that person have to come here”, or 
“Why can’t I stop feeling what they are feeling”, or 
something along the lines of you affirming the reality of a negative experience for yourself. 

 Your mind treats itself as a victim to that person’s energy. You start condemning them for draining you, or yourself for allowing yourself to be drained.
You are both reaffirming your own lack of control and contributing more negative energy to yourself by the way you are allowing your mind to perceive it.

Next time you experience a situation like this, catch your mind want to condemn, and you will save yourself a lot of suffering.

2) Zoom out. Adopt a new perspective
Instead of turning your empathetic experiences into a personal problem, turn them into an opportunity to understand.  
Don’t just sit there allowing yourself to absorb someone else’s negative energy.  Zoom out from the situation, and consider that they are clearly lost, confused, or going through a rough time.  Maybe nobody has ever taught them how to deal with what life throws at them, or with the thoughts that are dragging both of you down.  Once you realize that THEY are a victim (as opposed to you being the victim), your energy shifts from being one of passive compliance to one of pro-active love and understanding.

3) Clear your energy field
Instead of asking ourselves “How can I get away from this?”, it may be more helpful to ask “How can I be stronger than this?”
Close your eyes, and practice deep conscious breathing.  Bring your full attention to the act of breathing. Don’t think about your breathing, but feel the air move in and out of your lungs.  
When your attention is focused on something that grounds you instead of it being focused on the situation in front of you, you are able to see how much you are allowing yourself to be influenced when you don’t have to be.

Take back control over your energy field.  It’s your domain, and you are the gatekeeper of your thoughts.  Don’t be afraid to take your power back.  Sometimes, all it will take is 60 seconds of meditation, or 20 deep conscious breaths, or a minute of contemplating how much of a miracle it is that anything at all exists, and you will give yourself some breathing room between your energy field and the influence of the ones around you.

Take Responsibility
It’s too much to ask of the world to expect it to be peaceful and harmonious so we don’t have to bear the weight of negative energy, so the key to your freedom is to turn inwards and see what you can do change the way you engage with that person and with the thoughts and energy that person has installed in you.

Once you realize that you are the architect of your life in each moment, you take your power back from the hands of people around you.  You can choose to guard your thoughts and not let negative thoughts fill your head, you can choose to adopt a new perspective of love and understanding, and you can choose to put your foot down and clear your energy field.

You are a powerful creator.  Living as a empath may not always be easy, but living as an empath with victim mentality is a sure-fire way to put the keys to your happiness in the hands of the world around you.  You are more than just an energetic sponge.  You have will power and volition.  Don’t be afraid to step into your power and take back control over your energy field.

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